2018

With 2018 quickly approaching, I thought I'd share a few of my resolutions goals for the upcoming year.

1. Set boundaries. Goooooood night, I need this one. I am just too easy going. Too giving. Too willing. Even when it means it puts me or my own family on the backburner.

Which brings me to 2: Say "no" more often. Not in a rude way. But just saying "I can't, but thank you" or "good luck"  I need to say 'no' to events that I just don't want to go to.  I need to say 'no' when too much is being asked of me. I need to say 'no' when it doesn't serve me.

Also related ...3.  Stop making other peoples' problems MY problems. Its what I do. Its natural to me. I always want to help. Someone can say "my couch has a hole in it" and my brain immediately thinks "I HAVE A COUCH, DO YOU WANT MY COUCH?? HERE'S MY COUCH! TAKE IIIIIT!" And that's just the easiest example, I can think of plenty more emotionally complex ones that take a larger toll on my peace. And those scenarios are usually when I am going out of my way to "help" and the person is still just living their carefree life, not worried about a thing, while I carry whatever load I took on. (please look into co-dependency if you feel like this is you. You don't have to keep doing these things, you can live YOUR life without the burdens of other peoples' choices. I know co-dependency is linked to alcohol and drug use frequently, but it can relate to just about anyone who feels this way)

4. Let go. The purging has been good. So good. It feels better all the time. And I want to keep this up. And it just miiiight include people this time.

5. Use less. I love finding new ways to consume less, its like a little mini-hobby (gosh, that makes me sound old) But I love when I know I can make less of an impact on the planet with a small change. The average woman throws away 300 POUNDS of feminine products in her life, and that's just one woman! I encourage you to do this as well, look around you and find ways that you can cut back. Reusable paper towels, use less soap, reusable grocery and produce bags, try to do all of your errands at once to save gas, etc. It will save you money and if we all do it, it will make a positive impact on the only planet we have!

6. Wash my makeup off at night. I rarely wear it, but when I do, its for 3 days straight (I know some skin care gurus are probably cringing on that one...sorrrryyyy)

And finally :
 7. Say sorry less.