Mother's Day

This time last year, I was making a post on a personal blog about how my Mother's Day went. And it was very similar to today. Without knowing anything about minimalism last May, I for some reason, didn't want any gifts. Which was very odd for me. I was a person that was pretty much never without wants. I have been for as long as I can remember, I always wanted things. A new nail polish, a necklace that I likely wouldn't wear, a new graphic tee, a new rug...it was just constant. But something started changing in me, I don't know why and I didn't know at the time that I would be here this year...writing this blog about wanting less.

Again this year, Cory let me sleep in. He got up with the kids (rascals woke up at 0645 today! Poor Cory!) and let me snooze until almost nine. My body needed it. Char has been up all night for months at this point, and Cory and I are working for every minute of sleep we can get. I didn't get any gifts, but I honestly didn't want any. This is going to sound cheesy, but Cory shows me that I am important every single day. It never comes down to me needing any extra love on one day a year, he is always taking on just as much as I do. So right now, he is taking a nap with the kids while I clean up a little and get some work done. I am being 100% honest when I say that I don't mind that this is my Mother's Day. Actually, I love it. This is such a tough time in our lives with two small kids, both of us working full time and fitting all the other stuff in somehow, and I know he is just as tired as I am. So I am glad he sleeping, while he has the chance. It comes so rarely that either of us have a chance to relax enough to nap...so I don't mind one bit!

I spent the weekend enjoying some simple things. I took my time swishing mouthwash, brushing and flossing my teeth, which if you're a mom, you know how nice that can be! I went to my Aunt's retirement party as Cory went to a friend's 30th birthday party. We went for a walk with the kids to enjoy the sunshine. And Jack got some time in at the park. It costs me zero dollars to do these things. It adds no clutter to my life. And it brings me more joy than any patterned rug ever did. Jack loves dandelions and loves giving them to me and Charlotte. Watching him be so generous with his "flowers" is so good for my heart. I can see he is a lot like Cory with his giving nature. He just wants to see people happy and he would give up a prized dandelion to see his sister smile.

The only thing I can think of that I want is a less cluttered bedroom. I have been reading about the inability to relax when you are surrounded by clutter, and I think that is part of why I have trouble sleeping, especially at a chance when I could nap with the kids. It was so easy to look around and feel like "I should get up and clean, this place is a hot mess."

 Marie Kondo explained that you should come up with a solid goal when decluttering. It can't be as generic as "I want my living room to be less cluttered." It needs to be one specific goal that you work to obtain and here is my goal : I want to downsize our clothing enough that Cory and I can share one dresser, I want to get rid of the second dresser in our room, and replace the nightstand we currently have. Then I want to repaint our room and I want it to have enough space that I can have a large, standing mirror that sits on the floor. And I want little twinkly lights to hang over the mirror. I want it to feel open and light. And I want to feel relaxed when I lay down at night.

So what are your goals for your home? What would make you feel better when you lay your head down at night? Your goals don't need to cost money. Just think of a specific goal and do something everyday that gets you closer to having it.

Happy Mother's Day!
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